A Hapa Calls Out AF/WM Pairs Who Degrade Asian Males

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May 18, 2007 at 12:43pm

(Was passed this post, written by a hapa, in the group 'Asian Girls Who Love White Guys', which has a group pic of Bruce Lee looking pissed that doesn't fit or make sense at all except to provoke and mock Asian men)
http://mit.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2211120623
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"It is easy for white people to say, "Interracial dating is wonderful! And anybody that doesn't think so is racist!" Frankly, I think that it is difficult for any white person to get away with saying anything else.

But interracial dating affects different groups differently. It represents greater opportunity for some people, while representing a threat to others (black women, Asian men). Asian women and white men are probably annoyed with whatever flack they get regarding their relationships, but I think that it is unreasonable for anybody to expect Asian men to be totally comfortable with the gender imbalance of interracial dating/marriage and with Asian women that consciously reject Asian men on the grounds of their race. In fact, I suspect that this group was created in part to provoke Asian men.

A lot of Asian women only want white men, and a lot of white men only want Asian women. I am not saying that when these people form a couple, they cannot be in love, but they are really close minded for thinking so little of Asian men. (I suppose white women might also feel put off, but there are a lot more of them so they can absorb the blow. And they probably can get Asian boyfriends but choose not to.)

NOT EVERY interracial relationship is based on racial privilege or closed-mindedness, but many are. It is like a company that only hires white people. The white employees probably are qualified and very good at their jobs. But the problem is that the company is racist for not considering minorities. Things might be great for the company (or couple), but they are really unfair to the people that they categorically reject. And if you are apathetic about the feelings of men that are rejected, they are not the only people affected (see last paragraph).

This group was clearly created to celebrate white male privilege. Why else include the angry picture of Bruce Lee? What does he have to do with Asian women loving white men? Nothing, but I suspect that a lot of white men get a kick out of thinking that Asian men are angry that even Asian women think that white men are superior. Unfortunately, many Asian women are willing to add insult to injury by agreeing. And anybody that is offended by it is called "racist."

Finally, my mother is Chinese and my father is white. I think that this issue was less polarizing when they got married than it is now, so I would like to think that gender and racial privilege was not a factor when they chose each other. But I think that a lot of people in interracial relationships have low opinions of Asian men and I really would not want to be the son of an Asian woman/white man couple that have such negative opinions of Asian males."

Philip Mayer pmayer06@mckenna.edu